Resources
Tools and gear we recommend — for clients learning the etiquette, and for dommes building a sustainable business. Some links are affiliate. We only list what we'd actually use.
Privacy stack (for clients)
Crypto wallet + anonymous email + VPN. Three accounts, ~30 minutes to set up, gives you full privacy when paying for or contacting adult services.
Coinbase — buy crypto in 10 minutes
RecommendedThe simplest way to get a wallet if you want to pay privately. Sign up, verify, buy BTC or USDT, paste address. Done.
ProtonMail — anonymous email account
Free encrypted email that doesn't require a phone number or real name. Use it for adult-services correspondence.
NordVPN — basic privacy layer
Hides your IP from sites you visit. Pairs well with anonymous email and crypto payment for full privacy stack.
Provider stack (for dommes)
Content rails and payment processors that work for adult-industry professionals. Most pros use one content site + one payout rail + DommeDirectory for discovery.
Loyalfans — content rail with lifetime affiliate
AffiliateAlternative to OnlyFans with better creator economics. Crypto-friendly payouts. Lifetime referral commission for the inviter.
OnlyFans — the default content rail
Mainstream subscription content platform. 12-month referral bonus for the inviter.
Paxum — adult-industry payout rail
Quebec-based. Most major cam sites and OF use it for payouts. Lets dommes accept fiat directly from clients who don't do crypto.
Beginner gear
Most professional dommes carry their own kit, but some sessions benefit from your own gear — especially anything that touches your skin directly.
Beginner BDSM kit
For BuyersSoft cuffs, blindfold, paddle — the trio most new clients should own before a session.
Latex care kit
Polish, shine spray, talc. Keeps latex gear lasting years instead of months.
Bondage rope (jute, 30ft)
Standard shibari-grade jute. Bedroom-friendly length.
Lockable cuffs (steel)
For dommes who run more serious bondage sessions. Steel + key + safety release.
Guides
Free reading. Most new clients start here.
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